This is the place where we talk about the best way to learn about self-defence for our kids (and ourselves) and how to take control of our life (and the life of another person).
As a result of some of our past-defensive practices, our kids have been taught how to fight back against the threats they are exposed to.
We should be teaching kids self-defence. Our parents are a good example of this. As an adult, most of us are taught to understand the world. But a year or two ago, we were on the go, and we were learning about ourselves and the world around us. We learned how to take control of our life and our lives and to deal with the threat and the threats that come with it.
We weren’t taught self-defence in our home growing up. We never had an opportunity to learn how to protect ourselves from those who threatened us when we were kids. We were taught in school to fight back. Yet when we did fight back, we always ended up losing. That’s the nature of most combat. We learn how to fight back, only to lose at the end. We’ve been exposed to enough violence to know that fighting back is never a good idea.
The problem is that most of us (and most of the people we know) have become complacent, or even complacent about the way we fight back. We go to battle and we get beaten down. We learn how to fight, only to lose. Fighting is a learned ability, but there is no such thing as a “good” fight. It’s a skill that takes years to develop.
When we lose, we tend to take it as a personal failure. By the time we reach adulthood, we have a hard time making amends, and often the only way to do so is to take an immediate life and make it look like suicide. When we lose, it’s because we have been “bad” for so long that we don’t even realize it, and that’s when its most painful.
This thread is about how losing a fight is like losing a fight with our worst enemy. How much of our life is just a series of lost battles? How much of our mental faculties is just an inability to win? How much of our identity is just an expression of the fact that we’re bad and can’t win? When we lose, we have to learn to forgive our losses, so we can forgive ourselves and move on.
Being a bit of a psychologist, I’d like to propose that we have three levels of self-awareness. The first one is when we are aware enough to realize that something is wrong. The second one is when we are aware enough to realize that we are wrong.
The first type of self-awareness is the level of awareness where we realize that we are in the wrong. We are in the wrong for going to war. We are in the wrong for not being good enough. We are in the wrong for not being able to forgive ourselves for doing something we shouldn’t have. We are in the wrong for letting someone go through life without a proper say.
If we’re gonna be good, we need to do it ourselves, and we need to do it right. So when we are aware of a problem and we realize that we have no idea what to do about it, we need to do something. We need to figure out what to do. We need to figure out how to fix the problem we are aware of. The easiest way to do this is to do something that is not done.